What you say matters a lot: The way you talk matters, and the words you use, matter too. Saying “have a nice day” sounds friendly. Saying “enjoy the next 24 hours,” sounds threatening. Getting your message across is a way of connection, whether it is…
Working with individuals and couples, I often notice how people can be more disconnected from themselves than they realize, which in turn has an impact on the depth of their connections with partners, friendships, and beyond. Often, people who are frustrated with the state of…
“Hi, how are you?” “Good.” “How are things?” “Can’t complain.” “How was the vacation?” “So beautiful, I really enjoyed it.” “The kids are well?” “Everyone’s doing great.” Polite chit-chat tends to stay positive and just barely skim the surface of people’s experiences. Of course, there…
Memo To Myself “The message you give yourself is the loudest message of all.” Do you agree with that statement? Let’s unpack it together. As individuals, we make many choices every day, throughout the day. From more mundane decisions such as what to eat or…
If you have ever compared yourself to someone else, you are not alone. According to some studies, as much as 10 percent of our thoughts involve comparisons of some kind. “She is so organized, I wish I was more on top of things.” “How does…
As a therapist specializing in relationships, what I come across most often is the desire for one to be seen, heard, and understood. Whether it is an issue between friends, a parent-child dynamic, interactions between couples, or complications across the family spectrum, people are yearning…
Deena was interested in therapy, but she didn’t know where to begin. “I keep reading articles and hearing about different kinds of therapy: DBT, CBT, EMDR, IFS, and more! How can I figure out what type of therapy would work best for me?” I can…